Qweary: Masculine Shoes with Gray Suit?

I’m getting my first suit soon (most likely gray) and I’m stuck trying to find an appropriate pair of shoes. I have relatively small feet (7.5 in women’s) and everything I’ve found is much too feminine to look good with a suit. Any suggestions? Thank you!

That’s great! Congrats! Gray is a versatile suit color, and depending on the undertones of the gray, black, brown, or tan shoes could work. I don’t know what your budget is, so I’ll give you the range.

Printed canvas oxfords, Gap, on sale for $48.99

Printed canvas oxfords, Gap, on sale for $48.99

Elaina Suede Saddle Shoe, Bass, $78

Elaina Suede Saddle Shoe, Bass, $78

The Serge Oxford, Madewell, $178

The Serge Oxford, Madewell, $178

Adriana Shoes, bedstu.com, $335

Adriana Shoes, bedstu.com, $335

Queer Fashion News Recap

Lots of amazing things have been happening in the wonderful world of queer and nonbinary fashion! Here's a recap: 

Photo by Ryan Brenizer

Photo by Ryan Brenizer

Our friend and guest blogger The Handsome Butch of Bindle & Keep is going to be in an HBO documentary produced by Lena Dunham called Three Suits. Read more on vanityfair.com. We are incredibly excited for THB and Bindle & Keep. They do amazing work for the transmasculine community — check out my suit fitting post with them.

Photo by David James

Photo by David James

Speaking of suits, Brad and Angelina's daughter wore a suit to their wedding and looked pretty amazing. See full story on dapperQ.

dapperQ is as busy as ever, with their Editor-in-chief Anita Dolce Vita now guest blogging for Everyone is Gay and spreading her incredible knowledge and encouraging words to nonbinary kids. See her first post: Finding Masculine Clothes for a Female Body.

Kipper Clothiers Store

On the other side of the coast, Kipper Clothiers in San Francisco is having a Grand Opening party for their new brick-and-mortar store on October 4th:

"Come check out the store that was named Best Butch Bespoke '14 by SF Magazine at their grand opening party on October 4th, 6pm - 9pm. The party will include Camomile Old Fashions by Two Sisters Bar & Books, a photobooth and 20% off all accessories if you RSVP on their Facebook event. Kipper Clothiers has been committed to on-time production of high-quality, well-fitting custom suits and shirts for the Bay Area LGBT community since its establishment in July '13. They recently have opened their brick-and-mortar store in Hayes Valley at 78 Gough St. "

RSVP on Facebook here!

8 Simple Things That Can Make Advertising Less Harmful to Your Health

I can't even begin to count the how many times a designer has attempted to make their product "sexy" or "desirable" by placing a nicely dressed gent next to a completely nude model and calling it an advertisement. Marketing and advertising is all about sending a message; it's about telling people what's cool, how they can get it, and why they should want it. It actually sets the status quo (some of the times). When the media uses images of fluffy bears to sell toilet paper they are saying they saying "hey this toilet paper is soft and cozy and what more could you possibly want for your derriere?" but, what are they saying when they use women's bodies? 

The documentaries  "Miss Representation" by Jennifer Siebel-Newsom and "Killing Us Softly" by Jean Kilbourne demonstrate in that the majority of the advertisements where women's bodies have been used to sell products, the portrayal of the woman is often dehumanizing, demoralizing, and just plain unnecessary. The imagery certainly doesn't help the cause either, studies have shown that images objectifying women actually lead to increase likelihood of prejudice and a laundry list of other side effects that harm not just women but everyone involved. 

So, here are 8 simple things that could make menswear advertising less harmful to your health, featuring works from Tom Ford and Suit Supply ad campaigns. (After all, laughter is the best medicine.) 

Studies show that only 2% of people can multitask effectively. Oh look, a man who can read the paper AND iron his own clothes!!! Totes want that suit. From: Tom Ford, Spring 2008

Studies show that only 2% of people can multitask effectively. Oh look, a man who can read the paper AND iron his own clothes!!! Totes want that suit. From: Tom Ford, Spring 2008

Conditioning your buyers to combine food & clothing in their minds not only means they will think about your product more often but they will need to buy more of them due to growing pant sizes. But also, who doesn't love burritos? I mean come on. Image from: Suit Supply

Conditioning your buyers to combine food & clothing in their minds not only means they will think about your product more often but they will need to buy more of them due to growing pant sizes. But also, who doesn't love burritos? I mean come on. Image from: Suit Supply

What his grin is saying: (Left) "I touch all kinds of ladies, ladies." (Right) "Weez cutes."  Can I haz dat suit? Image from: Tom Ford

What his grin is saying: (Left) "I touch all kinds of ladies, ladies." (Right) "Weez cutes."  Can I haz dat suit? Image from: Tom Ford

He either didn't go to massage therapy school or he is the most inappropriate mortician. Dress for the job you want and that is legally acceptable. Please. From: Tom Ford

He either didn't go to massage therapy school or he is the most inappropriate mortician. Dress for the job you want and that is legally acceptable. Please. From: Tom Ford

OOOOOH you read? That's cool. I bet you know all kinds of things about the world and therefore I should trust your judgements. I'll have what he's wearing. From: Tom Ford

OOOOOH you read? That's cool. I bet you know all kinds of things about the world and therefore I should trust your judgements. I'll have what he's wearing. From: Tom Ford

Make the kind of statement that will heighten the conversation not drag out the... well if I only knew... From: Tom Ford Spring 2012.

Make the kind of statement that will heighten the conversation not drag out the... well if I only knew... From: Tom Ford Spring 2012.

In life there are many kinds of adventures and excitements, do the ones that you can show your mother... how nice you look in that suit! Where'd you get it?! Image from: Suit Supply

In life there are many kinds of adventures and excitements, do the ones that you can show your mother... how nice you look in that suit! Where'd you get it?! Image from: Suit Supply

I mean....manta rays. Image from: Suit Supply

I mean....manta rays. Image from: Suit Supply